The Universe is a strange thing, and the signs of us being together should have slapped us in the face a long time ago. But apparently, other lessons needed to be learned first.
Our paths crossing didn’t even start with us. Our mothers were best friends all through school and beyond. Nancy is Amy’s mom; Sherry is Todd’s mother.
From what we gather (remember, neither of us was born yet), they lost contact after Nancy divorced her first (abusive) husband. No children came until after the split, so we never really played together as children. We did go to the same high school, have lots of friends in common, but ran in very different circles, what with Todd being 3 years older. (It was high school! Three years is a big deal!)
Todd went into the Army, married, had 3 kids, divorced, remarried, divorced again.
Amy married, had a kid, divorced (due to abuse), had another kid, married again, and then divorced (due to cheating, which was HER, not the husband).
During Amy’s last divorce, there was a lot of emotional turmoil. This led to strange behavior on Facebook and a suicide attempt. It was the odd Facebook behavior that Todd noticed and contacted her. Which she ignored at first because of the depression. But, the stubborn man YELLED at her to get her attention. It was innocent enough in that he just wanted to help her during a very black time, but things progressed, and they fell in love. Quickly.
Amy’s divorce was finalized on May 30th. She married Todd 2 days later. Ok, we know. The ink wasn’t even dry on the divorce papers when we handed them to the officiant to get our marriage license. But when you know, you know. And we aren’t getting any younger. We want all the time we have left together, and there is no sense putting off what you know in your heart is right.
We live in his grandparent’s homestead, a huge old brick farmhouse that we just love, with land and a barn and all kinds of country. We spend a huge amount of time together, working to make a home and life with tons of memories that we feel as if we were cheated out of. We went into this understanding that we are different people, but that it’s these differences that make us who we are as individuals, and we celebrate one another instead of wanting to change anything.
We may not get a lot of years together, but we definitely plan on making the most of the years that we DO get.